U Gotta Be Kiddin Me This is a blog about me, my life and my family!

We had the Cub Scout lock in last night/this morning. Yes its 6:12am and I am soooo tired. I had never gone out drinking and staying out all night and acting stupid since having my Son. Sorry I feel people who drink tend to act foolishly and I don't want to be apart of that. Kids understand that and I love my Son too much to mess him up. It messes up their minds, anyhow. It was a fun night. No Stress, well maybe a little but not too much. One boy went to the hospital, he hyper-ventilated himself to the extent that they were worried so they called 911 and off he went. You simply cannot imagine 200 screaming boys and the messes they make. My Son since he's a Boy Scout in the older troop was in charge of keeping the little guys on track and out of trouble. He did a good job, and after his work was done we went and had some good times in the volleyball court. It was at the YMCA, so yes we had access to most of the areas. We played dodgeball, volleyball, pool and swam a bit. In my previous post Leanne had responded and its amazing how every family is different. Thanks Leanne for sharing with me. I think I handled it correctly too. Later on today I have another post but right now I am too tired to post it, but it will be on private and for those who want access, shoot me an email I will get it too you. I had something happen and I need to share it but not with those internet trolls and lurkers, if you know what I mean.

Recently there was a situation that involved my family, talking my current family which includes my Boyfriend and his children whom doesn't live with us but visits every other weekend which isn't alot of time to spend with your own children if I might add. But its court ordered, gotta love them court orders. Absolutley no BS with it and everything goes according to the court order. And also breaks from their schools they are usually here a week. I am in a relationship where my Son goes to his Father's house with his wife and two kids,(not my ex's kids). I have no issue with my Son going to his Dad's, he deserves to spend time with his Dad too. Why should I be selfish and keep him away? Well, in a more recent event about 3 weeks ago...in fact on New Years Day. We had my BF's kids here for the week. It was a nice time spent with all. Then the day came where their Mom had totally missed her kids. Can you blame one for missing their kids? Well I am not about to keep them from her, its not my place. BUT the Girl, started crying and didn't want to go. She then proceeded to say that ever since her Mom started dating a nice guy that her life has been like crap and she isn't happy. But I know for a fact these kids are in a safe and happy environment. I, being a Single Mom for a very long, long time got very upset. She also mentioned that she was going to tell her Mom that she wanted to live with her Dad when she turns 13 which by law it can be brought in front of a judge and taken into consideration. Right then and there told her to never, ever say that to her Mom that it would crush her and break her heart. She knew what she said was in a bit of frustration and anytime your frame of mind is stressed or frustrated you tend to say things that your going to regret. It happens to everyone. Kids say things all the time that they don't understand the outcome or say when they are unhappy in their environment or feel like they are being threatened. Or having something they truly loved taken away from them. It happens. My Son, which I am so grateful understands those things. My Son also knows that both his Father and I love him to no end and forever. We work together as Parents for him and make decisions together. Back to what the Girl had said, I had put myself in that situation on if my OWN Son had said that. Yes it would kill me, it would tear my heart out knowing I put myself on the line for that kid, raised him, took care of him while in the hospital, did everything for that boy and him want to run to his Dads just to get away from a problem at home with me. After that conversation with his Daughter, I sat down. And really thought what if? What if he wants to live with his Dad? What did I do wrong to make him mad at me? Was it something I did? Why would I be so upset? I then decided that would be a good time to sit down, and ask him why? Explain to him the changes that would happen. And if he would really be happy with his Father. Communicating is the key to every relationship. Along with understanding the child in question. Anytime, a child projects their frustrations on the custodial parent it can feel like a knife to the heart. And yes, it totally hurts. I've been there. At one point in time, the Wife of my EX asked if he wants to live with them. I in return went straight to the source and explained myself, and how it was inappropriate of that to be asked. So here I fight every day at keeping my Son happy and helping him with his schooling. But I would never, never ground him from saying anything about wanting to live with their other parent. Why? Because its out of love and hate they say those things. Kids can be defiant, kids can play games with your head. But also kids can say things that they do not really understand. Trust me on that. Most parents these days work so hard for their kids that the kids don't realize it. The kids do not understand the outcomes of certain situations. I have seen kids so unhappy at home because their Mom doesn't really care all she wants is the child support money. Granted the kids are fed, bathed and a roof overtheir head. But its the attention and the love they recieve. A Mother that works all the time doesn't have a good relationship, because the kids don't have a structured environment. Because when the Mom does come home she has been to the bar so drunk that the kids all run from her. I saw my distant cousins growing up like that and it killed me. Knowing my family was not like that at all. I always had my Mom there for me and my brother and sisters. My Dad was always out working but at least I had a stable home. I had someone to help me, guide me, love me unconditionally and even when my parents split for the first time. It was very difficult because we all have different parenting skills. My Mom kept it that way even while they were split. My Dad was more laid back, easy going didn't want to hurt us girls because we were the apples of his Eyes. As for my Brother, he was his little boy. So we shared time with both parents. Granted Mom always made it more difficult but I knew she was doing what was right for us. Right now is the time to make a change for the positive for the kids. Listen to them, listen to their concerns and don't judge them for wanting what they do not have. Do what you can to love that child and show him or her, love and support and that its ok to want their other parent once in awhile. Put yourself in that situation, how would YOU feel if your parent was keeping you away from ones they love? It would tear you apart inside and yes you would vent freely and say things just to feel better. By the way, I am not removing this post whatsoever because there are plenty of people who do read my blog and are single parents and know exactly what I am saying. But then again, every family is different. And I don't judge anyone. Being a Single parent is the toughest job in the world because not only are you Mom or Dad...your Both. Especially if your a Single Mom raising a boy....do you know how hard it was to potty train that kid? I didn't have the required tools to show him. Or when he comes up to and tells you his "private pickle" feels weird. Your at a complete loss of words.

Twice in two days, we have had at least one of our main bridges closed. My BF uses the one bridge that was closed tonight. So I am sure he was late to work. They shut it down at 8:30pm til' about ten minutes ago, bout 9:50pm. I am just thankful because there were about 17 accidents due to black ice. The weather here is so cold that salt isn't working. Salt quits working at a certain temperature. With that being said, we have had extremely cold weather yesterday, today and now tomorrow. Every single school in this area except two schools. Ours was cancelled. And its cancelled for tomorrow. Its been a long time since school has been cancelled due to weather. Granted its nice because of the weather being so bad, don't have to go anywhere. BUT I have a job interview at 9am. That's ok. I am good to go. Did you hear about that plane that landed into the Hudson River? How amazing that they all survived. I am so happy that this turned out a happy ending. It was amazing watching this plane drift down river with people standing on the wings....I would of gotten dizzy...lol. Earlier I had gotten dizzy driving, it was that cold that it made me dizzy but I had a book to return to the library. Gah!!

I decided earlier that I wanted to warm up by taking a hot bath. I know bad idea right? Well I turn the water on, not thinking straight cause its like really cold in the bathroom . Nothing like a wake up call by sittin' on the pot first thing in the morning and freezing your rear end off. So I hop in the tub, and guess what? ITS ICE COLD water and yes I sat in it. Oh my goodness. So I quickly drain it, and run nothing but HOT water. Phew. Thank goodness it was hot. So I went about my business. I honestly need to find some diet pills to help me lose some weight because...I found it difficult to shave my legs tonight. I am not very happy right now about this. So I need to do something.

We got hit with another storm during the night like I said previously said. It was only supposed to be 3-5 inches....guess what? We got almost 7 inches. Now we have a wind chill warning from 6pm tonight til' 6am Friday. They should of cancelled school today, but they didn't...but they cancelled tomorrow already today. THANK GOD!!!!!!!!!!

I should of just added to my last post, but I found out what was wrong with my Eye...Keratitis which is a common issue with people and their eyes. Its getting better with time. While my eyes were dialated the other day that was pure torture cause I could not see for the life of me. The laptop screen at to be at least a foot away for me to read or see anything.

Not much here, just more flippin' snow. I hate this stuff. Not only are we getting MORE flippin' snow, we are getting some really cold temps in the next couple of days. Talking 15 below crap. This house has NO insulation whatsoever. I am sitting here, the cats are huddled around the heater and there is this really bad draft coming from under the couch area. So its along the walls where the cold air is coming in. Now Gidget, our Mama kitty is huddled in my winter coat. So I know she's warm now. I am hoping the internet connection works, its been really wonky all day long. Cuttin g out, disconnecting. I may have to contact ATT and find out what's up. Did I mention I applied to work for ATT? Yep. Went in to fill out a app. Then got called back to fill out more information, background check, personality test....then got told that they want a face to face interview on Friday. So I guess I will see if I get hired or not.

These are not in any particular order: 1. Steelheart 2. Mr.Big 3. Toto 4. Ratt 5. Firehouse 6. Heart 7. Ted Nugent 8. Ozzy 9. Black Sabbath 10. Dio 11. Whitesnake 12. AC/DC 13. Def Leppard-----these guys were a HUGE influence...seen them 3 TIMES... 14. Skid Row 15. GNR 16. Dokken 17. Faster PussyCat 18. Great White 19. Scorpions---saw them ONCE... 20. Motley Crue 21. Joan Jett---saw her once, and was less than 10 feet from her...that was awesome, and she's so tiny. 22. Lita... I will be adding more, but those are the ones that on the top of my list...I can't believe I made it to 22, now if my BF was here...shiiiiiit he'd have well over a hundred. The man knows the hair band stuff, and he truly enjoys watching those shows that have trivia on the hair band times.....I always lose to him...lol.

I am currently in this funk of listening to the music that influenced me and why I love the music of today as well. So here is what I am wanting or would like to hear from you. If you happened to be in the 80s Hair music, what were your favorite bands, groups or singers? The other night, I was in such a weird mood that I was not only downloading Skid Row, yes I loved Sebastian Bach...then the next minute I was had downloaded some Boston songs. Then it changed over to Falco...yes the song Rock Me Amadeus just struck me...lol. THEN it changed over to Good Charlotte, just two songs from them. OK THEN...had a complete change of heart to Bonnie Tylers--Total Eclipse of the Heart. Then while sifting thru the bands, I had a flashback to one of the best Christmas's I had ever had. And that was when my Grandma had bought me my first ever Record Player the portable one. And She bought me Pat Benatars, Love is a Battlefield Album. At that time, she was my idol to dance in a bar all dressed up funny looking and get away with throwing a drink the dudes face. And their outfits are amazingly SO NOT MATCHING. Here's the video, just had to share what got me started in music....back in the day. It then changed over quickly to the hair bands. Why oh why? Cause man, they were so freakin' hot back then. By the way, I caught the tail end of Jay Leno, and Lady Gaga was on there and it looked like she was wearing panty hose over her underwear WITHOUT a skirt or pants or whatever she wears. Now that was just nasty.